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Assumptions are the termites of relationships. -Henry Winkler (1945-), actor best known as “The Fonz”, in the 1970s sitcom, Happy Days.
Have you ever sat on your couch wondering to yourself…”if I could only meet the right people, they could fill in the blanks for me…they could help me define the path to my goals…clarify the missing pieces”! We all know that we have ideas that make sense, but we just seem to get stuck with how we get help with those few missing steps.
The worst part is that we always seem to find other people getting it done, and for them it seems so effortless! Their success becomes a harsh reminder of our personal prison. Not that we begrudge them their success…well maybe some of you do…but really deep inside we just want our piece of the pie!
So what do we do? Here’s a novel idea…why not copy those people that have already arrived, rather than get mad at them. Okay, well let’s go even further than copying them…why not go build a relationship with them and make them your mentor. You see most people never even think to befriend successful people. They get locked in fear of embarrassment and would never even think to ask for the help and the opportunity to learn from the best!
Well this month I had the opportunity to meet with an uber producer, Gary Keller, the founder of the number 3 ranked real estate company in the United States, Keller Williams. For me, he drove these points home solidly and I’m sure I’ll never be the same. He made it clearly obvious that his success has been accelerated by simply copying the best in his business…but during a private luncheon he made the point that success was really founded upon relationships!
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There are seeds of destruction in all of us that will bear only unhappiness if allowed to grow. -Dorothea Brande (1893-1948) American writer and author of Becoming A Writer.
This week I had the privilege of working with some great people during a real estate conference. Although I have done these many times before, each event seems to give me a much deeper understanding of what keeps people back from being their best. I have said many times before that no matter what the system or vehicle being taught, the real challenge will always involve the “operator”. In other words no matter how proven a method or system may be, it’s always difficult for a new user!
That clearly begs the question, why? But I’m not referring to the obvious fact that learning anything new poses it’s obvious challenges, rather that deep inside each one of us there seems to be a ‘tripping point’!Malcolm Gladwell’s fantastic book, The Tipping Point discusses why things just seem to suddenly click and take off…but what about the converse?
Have you ever had a moment in your life where you thought you were making progress and finally getting somewhere and then the bottom fell out? How about all those people that work a life time to accumulate a level of wealth just to see it evaporate in the latest economic catastrophe? How about that relationship that you’ve been involved with for years that seems to collapse over night?
What the heck is happening? How can this happen? We follow “the rules”…you know, the ones that tell us hard work will get us through anything and everything…”just persevere” they say! While I find that an admirable characteristic and embrace it in my own life, I’m realizing that there is something deeper that could be causing this self destruction!
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For imagination sets the goal picture which our automatic mechanism works on. We act, or fail to act, not because of will as commonly believed, but because of imagination. -Maxwell Maltz (1899-1975), a cosmetic surgeon and author who developed Psycho-Cybernetics, a self image improvement system.
As we have discussed, rationalizing away our potential successes can be absolutely deadly to our happiness and prevents us from ever becoming who we are really capable of being! But it still begs the question as to why we do this on a regular basis…why is this the norm and not the exception? After all, we do realize that this exists, so why can’t we just stop doing it, reverse course and begin to achieve our dreams…and I’m talking about really breaking through and not just doing a little bit better!
This week I was able to tap into some of the deep rooted frustrations of my coaching clients when I posed the question if anybody was really sick and tired of hearing a motivational speech about how they could get what they wanted if they only take this pill, that program, the next greatest technique! In the front row a hand flew in the air accompanied by a pained facial expression that indicated I had hit the bulls eye! But even though many people are diligent in their pursuit of knowledge, it seems that they still find themselves on a slippery slope!
Why!? It’s right there in front of us! Gurus and masters of anything and everything…why not just copy them…but we do you say…and I agree…you try with a martyr’s effort…yet you seem to miss the mark constantly! Well I think that I know why! And the good news is that it’s easy!
Lost time is never found again. -Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790) One of the founding fathers of the United States of America.
As I write this, I have just completed a fantastic day of training my real estate clients and feel inspired by their passion to challenge themselves and learn more! During a particular exercise, they were all asked what is the biggest challenge they face on a day to day basis…and according to the majority…time management!
How could that be? With all of the obstacles and hurdles each day, why do we struggle so much with how to deal with the onslaught of time. I think the basic problem is that we have an inaccurate perception that we can control time at all. Really…think about it…manage time…impossible! It just keeps on rolling along regardless of what we do with it!
The truth is that the best we can hope for is that we block our usage of that time to pursue our dreams…yet that also seems to be an idealistic pipe dream. You see most of us are simply frustrated with what we do with time!
Consider the saying “time flies.” Does it really though? Many people with children can’t even imagine where the time went, yet ironically when they were getting up in the middle of the night to change diaper after diaper, I guarantee you they willed time along to just get out of that stage.
The heart of the matter again can be found within what it is that we really want out of the limited time we have, because to us time really is a limited resource. Most people never block even a little bit of that time to sit still and ask themselves what is it that they really want out of the several areas of balance in life.
