Comments on: Hidden Story!

By: jeff hildreth

jeff hildreth — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 22:41:45 +0000

Really enjoyed the post. Reading it as always makes one look at your own self and how you relate to others. I think that one of the interesting challenges we all face is slowing down our internal pace so that we can truly LISTEN to what is being told to us – either verbally or body language wise. Not only listen, but explore what are the true wants, needs, motivations, etc of the people we deal with every day. You discovery amazing things when you dig deeper and ask open ended questions followed by listening. It is the old we have 2 ears – 1 mouth so use the 2 more than the 1.

Thanks for the stimulation – and i appreciate everyone putting in their 2 cents ( again listening)

By: Lisa Randolph

Lisa Randolph — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 21:50:04 +0000

” Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” Plato

By: Tom Conklin

Tom Conklin — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 12:43:43 +0000

Great mojo Danny! You have always told us to listen to others rather than run off at the mouth listening to ourselves. Surprising what you learn and the potential problems you avoid. I must continue to strive to practice what you preach. Thanks for continuing to remind me. Tom

By: Phyllis Fryer

Phyllis Fryer — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 02:01:16 +0000

Danny,
I’m happy for you that you ran into someone who felt able to share such an intimately personal history with a total stranger. Our society does not allow this to be the norm. Yes, I do speak from personal experience.
This man is obviously coping with his circumstance, but I am not convinced that child is OK. I hope he continues to pay very close attention to his little boy. It’s easy to lose track of children in such a situation. I know that because I am the child who was lost.
I have learned to listen to the inside of people, not just the words that exit the mouth. I acknowledge that this is partly due to a continuing need to protect myself from the many predators in the world. I also state this: I am making my real estate business work because I do not put my needs in front of client’s needs. I listen closely to clients needs, and sometimes I have to prod them to talk about specifics. In the end, the details are what matter. I pay attention to those.
This works in my personal life as well. I am curious to ask you this, Danny. Did you read the note I passed to you at the superconference?

By: Francois Mackay

Francois Mackay — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 01:09:16 +0000

Hi Danny,

Great Monday mojo on Labor day. As a real estate agent, I think that we have to be interested in people if we want to help them reach there goal of finding a house or buying one. And to sincerely be interested in people means that we got to ask questions about different aspects of their lives and not only bussiness oriented but more importantly we got to listen carefully to what they say. When I first started in real estate, I was focusing to much on bussiness and not enough on their needs and goals and feelings. I was litterally forgetting everything they had told me about themself because I was either thinking about what price I was going to tell them, etc. Now I always take some time to get to now my clients more personnaly and I listen a lot more to what they have to say and at the same time I am doing a better job for them.

So thanks again for doing all that great work. It’s really fantastic to know someone like you and have you in Craig program. Hockey season will start soon, see you in Montreal for the Stanley Cup !

Thanks

Francois Mackay

By: Martha

Martha — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 00:00:22 +0000

One more example of “Walk a mile in their shoes…” I was always seriously affected by other peoples anger. I felt their anger was my fault or my problem to solve. My counselor recommended “You Are Not the Target”. This book helped me a lot. I still flinch at anger & yelling but I am able to take a deep breath, step back & assess whether it was something I did or said that generated the reponse or something within the other that is coming out when I am there. Of course it’s easier with strangers than family.

By: Ted Breden

Ted Breden — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 21:59:48 +0000

Acknowledging and appreciating your committment to making a difference for others using what you have distinguished for yourself through self inquiry and powerful mentoring.

So you want to know what I’m thinking and what my struggles are? WOW! Danny that’s more than a comment. Participating now in a seminar for success. Not for winning at goals or getting more money but distinguishing the paradigm that all human beings live inside of. That paradigm as you say is quite invisble to us. The impact of surviving self-imposed standards, ideals, attachments we have from our individual cultures, families, friends and education and so on. In the 5th week of 10 sessions has me starting to be free from the grip of the attachments made of a lifetime of bringing meaning to the events of success and failure.

When you describe one’s story or where they come from I’ve distinguished that I, no matter how much I’m determined to win and succeed, spend most of my thinking (although transparent to me) on the downside for having success. It’s really freeing for me to get how I’m attached to certain ways of being that have me take actions and get results that I am not committed to having in my life.

I can begin to see (by getting the distinctions for how I operate in life) to not operate like a machine and begin to choose courses of being first and then actions consistent with those ways of being to provide me with results I really want to happen in all areas of my life.

To write this email is one of the new ways for me to be and act. Even though my business income is not where it needs to be to support Mastery, the opening for Mastery and coaching in itself is now available to me since I have distinguished those old ways of being that do not work. Make sense?

Like this… do the same thing over and over again to get a different result is insanity. I’ve distinguished for myself in a nut shell my indentiy is not geared for high performance and high results even though I demand that of my self. Having distinguished those meanings I placed on events in my past life experiences provides me the frredom to choose ways of being that do support what I want.

In your own words of wisdom here and in your coaching, I hear you digging, digging and digging in to our lives. So thank you for being a stand for that even when it may appear to you that no one is at home or listening.

The human dynamic is a very powerful one. It resists and it resists to keep everything warm and cozy. To not be at risk. It does not want us to breakout of what we already know to be true (whether we like it or not). We humans love being right even when it provides only pain and suffering.

If we want to be winners, I know I do, I’ve got to breakthrough to the otherside. By giving up being right about all that I hold on to (meaning) for what success really is for me. All that meaning is not true. It is simply a meaning or point of view that I said is true about myself.

The space travelled between where I am and where I want to have a breakthrough is not often a pretty place, however there is an experience of freedom, power and joy on the otherside.

Thank you

By: Meli

Meli — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 21:27:01 +0000

walk in another mans shoes….. then you’ll understand how he is thinking

By: David Nichols

David Nichols — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 20:48:26 +0000

Hey Danny, I haven’t commented on here for a couple of months, mainly because I feel detached and seperated from the group and out of place. I felt great when I felt I was part of a bigger picture and then my world kinda caved in around me and instantly felt lost and out of place. I’ve had a hard time picking up the pieces and getting back on track, looking for other work because I no longer feel in the right career! I will tell you this, the Monday morning mojo is one of the things I can’t live without! Each Monday I read the mojo first thing and it give me a little of myself back because somehow you always seem to hit the nail on the head! It has taken some time but I have been placing plans in place to get back on track so I can get back in the group and get away from the distractions that derail me. I havent had a lot of support from my family in this indever so I’m working on making things happen (I’m just having to do it the hard way). I even had to cash out my 401K to make my monthly bills, and that was after cutting most everything out of my business. Anyway, enough of that sob story, we all have our own, I just want you to know I’m working on figuring out how I can get back in the game and do more than just survive. By the way, as always great mojo!!!!
David

By: Harry Kimbrough

Harry Kimbrough — Mon, 07 Sep 2009 20:06:51 +0000

That is a really good post Danny. It exemplifies how we can sometimes make some rather outlandish and totally false assumptions about people. It’s not until we really sit down and hear their story that we can best underestand them and serve them. I’ve found in discussions with others, some who have had deaths in the family, divorces, financial ruin, near death experiences and other cancer patients that too many times I had made some assumptions that were way off base. I found that the other person sitting across the table from me was a truly interesting person and when I heard their story I was better able to understand and help them.

This post really hit home.