Analysis gave me freedom of emotions and fantastic confidence. -Hedy Lamaar (1914-2000), Austrian born actress most well known for her role in Samson and Delilah.
Pleasure or Pain?
Fear, Greed, Love, Trust and on goes the list of emotions we feel on a regular basis. They can well up in an instant and completely change the course of our direction. In a minute we can be headed down one path and then become completely moved down another by a change of heart. So is this a good thing? Well maybe we ought to step back and consider how significant this issue really is…
Let’s consider our last subject of deadly distractions and go searching for the connection. You see everybody wants to pretend that they can separate the challenges of surviving and making a living from the other aspects of their lives so let’s start there. Can you really focus at work if you have a kink in your relationship with your spouse, your kids, your parents or maybe even your best friend. Of course not! That deeply rooted desire to love and be loved is perhaps the greatest and most powerful emotion of all…just think back to how overpowered your common sense became when you fell in or out of love. What about greed? What happens to your life when all you focus on is hunting and gathering money at any expense. Do you wake up one day with nobody to love or worse be surrounded by people that no longer trust you or believe in you? How’s that feel? Not so hot huh?
Inaccurate Thinking
Comfort in expressing your emotions will allow you to share the best of yourself with others, but not being able to control your emotions will reveal your worst. -Bryant H. McGill (1969-) Editor and author whose works are used by over one hundred thousand writers, educators, aspiring writers, students and song-writers.
Try and think about the last time you were overrun by your emotions in a situation…how did you handle it? Was the result a calm, cool and collected positive result? Did you clearly convey your thoughts? Did you get your point across without leaving a wake of beaten and battered friends, family or colleagues?
You see emotion or simply our ability to feel is exactly what makes us unique and perhaps top of the food chain. Yet like any strength it also serves as our greatest weakness! Basically, it seems apparent that there is a direct connection between our emotional epicenter and our reaction mechanism lead by our mouths and our words; and of course it’s along that very assembly line where we humans just seem to make a big mess!
It would appear that figuring out what goes wrong is really very basic. I happen to think that it all comes down to some basic fears. Take a relationship for example…any one that is…spouses, business partners or friends! What always seems to be at the root of any problem? Is it really about the disagreement itself or is it the fear of embarrassment…the fear of losing something that leaves us on an island of insecurity!
